Deceased's cousin aged 42 Paul

by Paul Botelho
(Cambrdge Ont ,Canada)

On September 21,2009 around 6pm in Halton Ont, A suv driven by my 42 yr old cousin from Cambridge Ontario Canada whom by the way has same 1st name and same age as me , was heading westbound on 25th side rd & 6th side line. Was t boned by a car heading north bound on 6th line who failed to stop at the stop sign and ran into the suv causing it to swerve and roll over in a ditch. He was thrown out of the vehicle and was dead at the scene. The 2 young boys in the suv where treated and released from hospital. The Driver of the car was to appear in court but bailed out. He had been drinking all that day , from reports gathered from my family. He had more than 80 milligrams of alcohol in his system. He was arrested at the scene uninjured and was charged with careless driving causing death, reckless driving causing death, and have twice the legal limit of alcohol. My cousin now leaves behind 2 daughters, and a 6 week old grand daughter, grieving mother, brother and a physically disabled sister. Also he leaves behind a loving partner who adored him more than life itself. Paul was a person who enjoyed life to the fullest. He was one of those people who'd do anything for you. He worked long hours to support his daughters and now new grand daughter who he only knew for a short time. I grew up with Paul as kids and i just saw him at a family wedding that we attended. Just days prior to his death. Paul was a pillar to all who knew him. As I'm typing this I'm trying to fight back the tears. We have a big family .Paul was loved by all. Its very hard to come to grips that he's no longer here. I still can't believe he's gone. I feel this is like a dream which i can't wake up from. Every week i pay a visit to my aunt to console her and see if she needs anything. She is devastated by the loss of her beloved son.She lost her husband to a heart attack 15 yrs. Now this.How much can she take. Before this happened i admit i would have a drink and get behind the wheel thinking I'm OK ,OK i was OK but that's not the point. ZERO is the limit. My cousin now is the statistic and i don't want to be the next. The courts should get very tough with drunk drivers who kill someone. Life in jail no parole that goes for 1st timers too. No questions. I hope this message will help those who get drunk and get behind the wheel. RIP Paul GOD BLESS YOU Always Remembered but Never Forgotten.
From Paul Botelho your cousin

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Oct 15, 2009
I'm so sorry
by: Suzanne In Connecticut

First I'd like to say how sorry I am for you loss, it's so new, and the dream like feeling goes on for a while...I actually just woke up after 3 1/2 years of my husband being killed by a drunk driver...My story is on this website, I'm writing you, because, you said something I've been saying everyday, the laws are to easy on the people that take our loved ones from us...The guy that killed my husband, fled the country, he didn't feel he could handle jail...All I can say is how would he like to be in my shoes...All he would have had to do is, take responsiblity for his actions, and then he could go on with his life...I'll never be able to see my husband again, hold him, kiss him good night, look into his eyes...This man lives...and takes no responsiblity...I as you would have a drink or two and get in the car in the past...If I'm going to drink now...I make it a point to sleep over that friends house, or I simply don't go, or I just don't drink. I don't know how many lives it will take before SOMEONE, see's there needs to be changes made with the laws..Once again, I hate to intrud on your mourning, I want you to know, it never gets easier, it just gets older...if you know what I mean. Take care of yourself and your family. The one thing that has gotten me through these past 3 years, is friends and family...

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