DONT DRINK AND RIDE, IT'S DEADLY

by LORRI STANDLEY
(GLIDE, OREGON)

I LOVE AND MISS YOU DAVID!

I LOVE AND MISS YOU DAVID!

THE DEATH OF DAVID WEST JAN 14, 2006
IT STARTED OFF AS ANY NORMAL FRIDAY. CHAD AND KYLE DAVID'S BEST FRIENDS CAME OVER TO DAVE'S HOUSE TO SEE IF DAVE WANTED TO GO SHOOTING UP IN THE HILLS. OF COURSE HE DID, ANYTHING TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE AND AWAY FROM HIS WIFE FOR THE DAY. SO CHAD, KYLE AND MY BROTHER DAVID WENT UP IN THE HILLS. UNFORTUNATELY WHEN THE GOOD O'L BOY'S GO UP INTO THE HILLS IT USUALLY MEANS THAT THEY TAKE BEER WITH THEM. THIS TIME WAS NO DIFFERENT. THE GUY'S LEFT AT 12:00 NOON. CHAD HAD TO WORK THE FOLLOWING DAY SO THEY PLANNED ON BEING BACK BY 5PM. CHAD'S ALTERNATOR STARTED TO GO OUT AND DAVID BEING IN THE FRONT SEAT HAD TO HOLD A SPOT LIGHT OUT THE WINDOW SO CHAD COULD SEE. YOU SEE DAVID HATED THE BACK SEAT. DAVE AND KYLE EVEN ARGUED ABOUT IT BUT DAVID WON. IT IS JAN AND WE LIVE IN OREGON SO IT'S RAINING PRETTY GOOD. DAVID IS SOAKED NOT REALLY HAVING ALL THAT MUCH FUN. STILL HE HOLDS THE LIGHT TO SEE, THEY MADE IT TO A FRIENDS HOUSE WHERE CHAD FIXED THE ALTERNATOR , TO SOME DEGREE, ENOUGH TO GET THEM BACK TO CHAD'S PARENTS HOUSE WHICH IS WHERE CHAD LIVES. I DON'T REALLY KNOW ALLOT ABOUT WHAT WENT ON AT THE HOUSE, I WAS NOT THERE. KYLE REMEMBERS GETTING INTO THE HOT TUB W/ CHAD, NOT TO SURE AT THIS POINT WERE MY BROTHER IS, MAYBE IN THE HOUSE. HE WAS SOAKING WET FROM THE RIDE HOME. AARON IS CHAD'S LITTLE BROTHER NOT AS IN BABY BUT JUST A COUPLE YRS YOUNGER, 27 TO BE EXACT. AARON AND HIS GIRLFRIEND HAD RECENTLY MOVED BACK IN THE GILBERT HOME ( THAT IS CHAD'S LAST NAME AS WELL AS AARON). DEANNA GILBERT THE MOM HAD RECENTLY DROPPED A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST AARON. AARON HAS A BAD DRUG PROBLEM, HE LIKES TO USE METH. I GUESS AARON WAS JONESING FOR MONEY AND DRUGS SO HE HELD HIS MOTHER AT GUN POINT UNTIL HIS YOUNGER SISTER (MANDY) WENT TO THE ATM AND GOT HIM THE MONEY HE NEEDED, THAT WAS IN JUNE OF 2005. LIKE I SAID DEANNA DROPPED THE RESTRAINING ORDER IN LATE NOVEMBER OF 2005. I GUESS AARON TALKED HER INTO IT. AARON SAID HE WAS CLEAN AND SOBER. NEEDLESS TO SAY HE WAS NOT SOBER. I'M FILLING IN HERE THE BEST I CAN FROM WHAT KYLE REMEMBERS, KYLE AND CHAD GOT OUT OF THE HOT TUB AND WENT INSIDE, REMEMBER THEY HAVE BEEN DRINKING SINCE AROUND NOON. AT AROUND 11:30 PM SOME FRIENDS OF AARON'S SHOW UP WANTING TO GO TO THE LOCAL BAR IN GLIDE, OUR HOME TOWN. AARON IS ALL FOR IT, CHAD SAY'S NO. I GUESS MY BROTHER WANTED TO GO SO HE GOT IN THE FRONT SEAT WITH AARON. KYLE COMES RUNNING OUT AND ALSO WANTS TO GO. KYLE RUNS TO THE FRIENDS CAR BUT IT IS TOO FULL, THEY TELL KYLE TO GO GET IN WITH AARON. SO NOW DAVE AND KYLE ARGUE OVER THE FRONT SEAT AGAIN, IF ONLY DAVID WAS SOBER HE WOULD NOT OF GONE IF HE COULDN'T HAVE THE FRONT SEAT, KYLE WINS. DAVID GETS OUT AND IN THE BACK SEAT. AARON'S FRIENDS DRIVE OUT FIRST, THEY GET ABOUT ONE MILE DOWN THE ROAD WHEN AARON'S HONDA ACCORD PASSES THEM AT VERY HIGH SPEEDS. AARON GETS TO THE STOP SIGN AND FLIES RIGHT THRU IT, THEN DOES A 360 IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FOUR LANE HWY. KYLE GETS SCARED AND TELLS AARON TO SLOW DOWN, SO DOES DAVID. AARON IS NOW HEADING TOWARDS THE TAVERN, ABOUT 7 MILES FROM HIS HOUSE. HE LETS HIS FRIENDS CAR PASS HIM ONLY TO PASS THE FRIENDS CAR AGAIN WITH HEADLIGHT OUT THIS TIME AND GOING AT LEAST 80 MPH, ACCORDING TO TESTIMONY AT THE TRIAL. AARON IS NOW IN THE LEAD AGAIN GOING 80 MPH PLUS, IT'S POURING DOWN RAIN. THE ROADS ARE COVERED IN WATER, WHILE MESSING AROUND GOING IN THE ON COMING TRAFFIC AND THEN BACK TO HIS LANE HE HITS THE GRAVEL AND HYDROPLANES. AT THIS POINT HE IS TURNING HIS HEADLIGHTS BACK ON, BUT OVER CORRECTS AND FLIES 5 FEET OFF THE HWY INTO THE DITCH ON THE RIVER SIDE OF THE ROAD, HE KEEPS THE CAR STRAIGHT FOR OVER 60 FEET. FOR WHAT EVER REASON AARON TURNS HIS CAR SLIGHTLY BACK TOWARD THE RIVER AND SLIDES INTO AN OLD GROWTH OAK TREE, AT THIS POINT IT'S ONLY HIS BUMPER THAT IS CONNECTING TO THE TREE, BUT WITH THE RATE OF SPEED AND FORCE THE CAR TURNS EVEN MORE TOWARDS THE RIVER WHICH THROWS THE CAR SIDEWAYS SO THAT THE PASSENGER SIDE IS NOW HITTING THE SECOND OLD GROWTH OAK TREE, THIS IS THE KILL FOR MY BROTHER, IT LITERALLY SHEARED THE ROOF OF THE HONDA OFF THE CAR. MY BROTHER DAVID FLIES FORWARD INTO KYLE'S FRONT PASSENGER SEAT BREAKING THE SEAT AND PUSHING THE SEAT FORWARD. AT THIS TIME MY BROTHER DAVID AND KYLE ARE EJECTED AT THE SAME TIME, MY BROTHERS BODY ACTUALLY PROTECTS KYLE'S BODY AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE, THE CAR STILL IN THE AIR TURNS ONE MORE TIME DOING ANOTHER COMPLETE 360 AT THIS TIME AARON IS THROWN OUT INTO THE ROAD AND THE CAR COMES TO A STOP IN SOME HEAVY BRUSH AND SHRUBS. THE CAR IS UNWRECKIGNISEABLE. THEY SAY MY BROTHER WAS KILLED ON IMPACT, HIS INJURY'S SO SEVERE THAT HIS SKULL CRACKED LIKE AN EASTER EGG, PART OF HIS BRAINS ACTUALLY CAME OUT, HE ALSO HAD A VERY BROKEN NECK. FOR HIS INJURIES THAT IS WHAT THEY WERE. KYLE HAD SEVERAL SERIOUS CUTS ON HIS FACE FROM THE WINDOW HE HAD OVER 100 STITCHES HIS EAR WAS TORN OFF AND HIS NECK WAS ALSO BROKEN. AS FOR AARON WELL HE HAD BOTH OF HIS ELBOWS BROKEN, BONES OUT AND ALL, HE HAD INTERNAL INJURIES FROM HITTING THE STEERING WHEEL INCLUDING A STEERING WHEEL IMPRINT ON HIS CHEST. HE HAD TO BE LIFE FLIGHTED TO PORTLAND OR. I THINK IT WAS MORE OF A REQUEST FROM AARON'S PARENTS THEN A LIFE THREATING THREAT TO AARON'S LIFE. YOU SEE THAT VERY NIGHT THAT AARON KILLED MY BROTHER DAVID, AARON'S PARENTS ALREADY STARTED SAYING DAVID WAS DRIVING. ONCE THE CORONERS REPORT CAME OUT THE GILBERT FAMILY THEN PLACED THE BLAME ON KYLE AS THE DRIVER.. THIS WAS AARON'S FOURTH (4) DUII. AARON WAS OUT ON BAIL FROM WHEN HE HELD HIS MOTHER AT GUN POINT WHEN HE KILLED DAVID. AARON HAS A RAP SHEET AS LONG AS MY LEG, NO JOKE, MOSTLY FELONIES. AARON CLAIMED HE COULD NOT REMEMBER WHO WAS DRIVING. THE NIGHT THAT IT HAPPENED KYLE WAS TOO DRUNK AND INJURED TO SPEAK TO THE POLICE. AARON'S BAC WAS .24 KYLE'S BAC WAS.29 AND MY BROTHER'S BAC WAS .14 THE LEAST DRUNK, I'M NOT JUST SAYING THAT BECAUSE HE WAS MY BROTHER EITHER.. THERE IS NO EXCUSE WHAT SO EVER FOR DRUNK DRIVING, AND WE ALL LEARNED THAT IT DOESN'T PAY TO DRINK AND RIDE EITHER. IT IS JUST AS DEADLY.

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Jun 02, 2011
Not on purpose
by: Anonymous

I know for a fact that Aaron did not purposely want this boy to die & he is paying the price every day just by knowing what he did, plus nearly dying himself.
I believe that after generations of drug/alcoholism disease on Aarons side of the family this may be a wake up call & hopefully break the cycle for some of them.
I am a blood relative of Aarons & after personally living through addiction hell, have finally decided to put an end to it years ago. I saw what it did to my parents & other family members & decided there was no way that I was going to live that life or have my child exposed to it.
Thankfully my life is great, it takes a lot of work, counseling etc...to get through it, plus I don't see much of my family anymore because they choose to continue to use alcohol, but it's worth every minute not to carry on the vicious cycle.
And I am very proud to be one of the first to do it, hopefully others will follow...
Condolences to the family of the boy who passed away...he will be truly missed by many, hopefully his passing has made a big enough difference to some to stop using drugs & alcohol permanently.

Apr 11, 2010
I'm sorry for all the families involved
by: D.Swajjian, Redding, Ca.

So you see : the driver of the other vehicle wasn't the only victim of my brothers that night. He killed the spirit of the other drivers family, the joy, the happy future memories of that other family were destroyed in an instant. He killed their pure innocent outlook on life - there will forever be a sadness in that family that my brothers split second decision put there and a thousand 'I'm sorries" will NEVER erase what he did.
He killed the spirit of my own family as well - my mother died with a broken heart, my nieces are being raised by a step father and my sister in law in another state, my father wont talk about it...the legal process devastated my parents financially. I miss my brother so much but the painful thoughts that the other family will never see their family member again kills me every day.
I think I'm rambling on a bit, my point is this...not to the families involved in this case - it is too late for it now - but to others who may by chance read this thread - take note of the common factor ; Anger and Sadness. When you pick up your keys after even having had ONE drink, please please please think twice. The consequences are far reaching....families are waiting for their loved ones to come home .... let them do it safely.
Stanley family, I pray for you...I pray that one day you will have peace one again in your heart, forgiveness may never come and that is completely understandable, your anger is apparent and sometimes our anger keeps us sane, God bless you...to the families of the other 2 boys involved, I pray for you too. I know from your standpoint the shame and devastation you feel. I know, too, you wish there was some way to make all of this right. Unfortunately what is done is done, but you can now serve others as a warning of what can happen when certain choices are made. God bless all of you, may you one day find peace and one day see your brother, son, friend waiting for you in heaven with open arms.

Apr 11, 2010
I'm sorry for all the families involved
by: D.Swajjian, Redding, Ca.

I came across this thread last week and its haunted me since. The tragic senseless losses of all families involved is heartbreaking. From the standpoint of the parents of the 3 boys involved in the accident, the heartbreak goes without saying and is far reaching. For the parents and siblings of the Stanley boy-the pain has to be daily, they must awaken each morning with a split second of peace and then reality crashes in again and again day after day. The loss of a family member in such a violent manner haunts one for the rest of their lives...a happy memory of that loved one turns to sadness within just a few moments of recalling happier times. I'm very very sorry for your loss. I too lost a loved one to drinking and driving. He was my brother and he, unfortunately was the driver, the repeat offender, the cause of the loss of a life while driving under the influence. He lives with his shameful memory of that night every day - in prison- as he should, safely taken away from the rest of society where he was unable to follow the rules. The anger you feel may or may not pass, in my families case its a mixed bag. My mother died recently, died a natural death but it was far from peaceful. Because of my brothers decision to drive that night-her shame and grief was deep. She spent her last year of life deep in depression, once a church going contributing woman-she became a type of recluse...her yard which she took so much joy in turned to weeds..it bespoke so much of what was going on inside her heart.
My brothers wife divorced him, relocated and remarried. Their 2 kids no longer know their father...the sadness at his sudden abandonment confuses them, the few times his wife was able to travel the distance to visit my brother became a nightmare when the kids begged him to come home...they didnt understand the circumstance, that he was locked up - so it seemed to them that he was somewhere he would rather be than with them. The absence of their dad and her husband, I suppose, finally tore them apart.
I can't talk to my dad about it, he hates my brother now, he sees this tragedy for what it has turned out to be....the circle of death my brother created that night he foolishly decided to drive once again, drunk. (continued in next thread)

Feb 09, 2010
unbelievable
by: Anonymous

who post a web site and then fights about the death of a loved one???? you know people around the world die everyday because of drug overdoses, drinking,some people out there dont have any of there family left.....so i would make sure you count your blessings as well as being a negative mean person....think about all the navy wives that lose there husbands....you people need to stop with the stupid bickering back and forth over your situation....im sorry but its kind of annoying to see someone say they care so much and are doing all these things....well how about go to haitti and help thousands of people that are suffering....so stop the brownie points with the whole you have done this and that...i dont know who you are and i dont want to. and im never going to look at one of your little post again cuz they look all the same. fighting back and forth...and telling someone you would never pray for them just tell what kind of person you are right there....unbelievable!

Apr 12, 2009
Don't drink and Ride, It's Deadly
by: Anonymous

To the anaymous writer who gave me a rude comment, for one I hope you got my 1st responce!!! @nd I stand by what I wrote. If you where to re-read it you'll see where I said i am filling in here cause I wasn't at the Gilbert home, Or I know this because Kyle told me so The other victim in the car who did survive to tell the TRUTH about what happened. So as far as your statement goes I sure hope Ken post my responce to you mr./ms. Anonymous....

Apr 12, 2009
2nd part of 1st comment
by: Anonymous

I think maybe you have have some (allot) of tied up anger issues. A doctor might be a good idea for you I have already started that process, and thank you it's working very well.Did ur brother have any kids? Mine had Two. I havent been able to see them, talk,write, call, them since June"06". Why because my brothers widow wants it that way. So please don't tell me you know how I feel. You don't have ONE clue as to how I feel. I will not ever pray for the driver who killed my brother nor do I forgive him. He is a (4) Four time repete offender, thats right 4 duii's. Do you think he still deserves for giveness, Not a chance on this earth. Yes my brother made his biggest mistake that night of Jan 14th 2006 by getting into that car with such a drunk person, but my brother also paid the ultimate price.... DEATH.... At least the driver of the car will get out in 15 yrs and be able to start all over. Create a family if so chooses, have kids, go back to school(if he isn't already), Get to reconnect with his family and siblings and so many more things my brother will never get to do. I will never see, talk, call, visit with my brother again or his kids, that goes for our whole side of the family. So before you go and think you know what I am feeling or should be feeling or should be writing maybe you outta know me and my tragidy before you speak of me in the way you did. By the way, what have you done to prevent anyone else from dying due to alcohol??? I have joined MADD Yes My family and myself have opened a new first time chapter in our county, I speak at the duii confrences, I speack at adapt, at our diversion once a month where they show the gory movies about what can happen if you drink & drive or ride. I have gone out on 3 different duii saturations in the last 2 yrs, so please tell me now that I have not moved forward just a bit from my very first comment on what happened to my brother on my 35th B'Day!!!!! Yes by the way you have angered me to a point I don't like to be at anymore. It's people like you who have even lost one of your own siblings and still find fault in others and how they choose to grieve. no two deaths are the same and no 2 people will grieve the same or for the same amount of time. Some will forgive and move on quick and others struggle just to get threw each new day. I can tell you you moved on pretty quick, thats great for you. I think our brothers deaths were very different from each other... If you even have a deceaced brother.

Apr 12, 2009
more from the 1st comment
by: Anonymous

Dear Anonymous, As you know My Name is Lorri. Yes my brother David was killed by a drunk driver and yes it does hurt, it hurts like hell. It has just been over 3 yrs for me and my family. I think what you wrote was way out a line! You do not know me or my family or how we grieve. You do not know any of the circumstances surrounding the crash or the B.S. that came afterwards. No I was not in the car, I did not need to be. The surviving victim was all I needed to get most of my information the rest of it came from the D.A. and the P.I. The autopsy, the accident reconstructionist The drunk driver himself while he was drunk and talking his normal B.S. I am really offended that you would act so christian like saying how you and your family are praying for the person who killed ur brother but you have the nerve to blast me for my fellings.

Apr 12, 2009
Different death different feelings!!!!!!!!
by: Lorri standley

Dear Anonymous, As you know My Name is Lorri. Yes my brother David was killed by a drunk driver and yes it does hurt, it hurts like hell. It has just been over 3 yrs for me and my family. I think what you wrote was way out a line! You do not know me or my family or how we grieve. You do not know any of the circumstances surrounding the crash or the B.S. that came afterwards. No I was not in the car, I did not need to be. The surviving victim was all I needed to get most of my information the rest of it came from the D.A. and the P.I. The autopsy, the accident reconstructionist The drunk driver himself while he was drunk and talking his normal B.S. I am really offended that you would act so christian like saying how you and your family are praying for the person who killed ur brother but you have the nerve to blast me for my fellings. I think maybe you have have some (allot) of tied up anger issues. A doctor might be a good idea for you I have already started that process, and thank you it's working very well.Did ur brother have any kids? Mine had Two. I havent been able to see them, talk,write, call, them since June"06". Why because my brothers widow wants it that way. So please don't tell me you know how I feel. You don't have ONE clue as to how I feel. I will not ever pray for the driver who killed my brother nor do I forgive him. He is a (4) Four time repete offender, thats right 4 duii's. Do you think he still deserves for giveness, Not a chance on this earth. Yes my brother made his biggest mistake that night of Jan 14th 2006 by getting into that car with such a drunk person, but my brother also paid the ultimate price.... DEATH.... At least the driver of the car will get out in 15 yrs and be able to start all over. Create a family if so chooses, have kids, go back to school(if he isn't already), Get to reconnect with his family and siblings and so many more things my brother will never get to do. I will never see, talk, call, visit with my brother again or his kids, that goes for our whole side of the family. So before you go and think you know what I am feeling or should be feeling or should be writing maybe you outta know me and my tragidy before you speak of me in the way you did. By the way, what have you done to prevent anyone else from dying due to alcohol??? I have joined MADD Yes My family and myself have opened a new first time chapter in our county, I speak at the duii confrences, I speack at adapt, at our diversion once a month where they show the gory movies about what can happen if you drink & drive or ride. I have gone out on 3 different duii saturations in the last 2 yrs, so please tell me now that I have not moved forward just a bit from my very first comment on what happened to my brother on my 35th B'Day!!!!! Yes by the way you have angered me to a point I don't like to be at anymore.

Apr 11, 2009
What are you doing???
by: Anonymous

My brother was killed in a drinking and driving accident also so i feel your pain......But were you in the car? there is no way to know all that detail unless you were in the car. and also you go on and on about these peoples lives saying personal things that are not even related to what happend....Maybe you should go see a dr. this would have been a good blog but man you are going over the top and making it not about your brother. let him rest in peace and it dont make sence to me what you are trying to do....also it dont matter what the blood alcohol was in them guys because drinking and driving is drinking and driving no matter what. It also dont make sense that If your brother had the least amount of alcohol and he still got in the car????? that is a little strange to blog all this...I would clean it up and make it for your brother not all this other crap that no one cares about. When my brother was killed The driver got 5 years and also has to live with what he did but my family prayed for the driver also. what i just read is wrong and obbssesive

Dec 13, 2007
Drinking and Driving
by: Tambreshia Polk

I don't think they should srink while they need to drive home if it was me if i be drinking at a friend house i woulld just stay all night to the next day. My mom always told me don't get in a car with a friend that has been drinking or smoking

Oct 29, 2007
from lorri standley on brother david west
by: Anonymous

IT'S COMING UP ON TWO YRS SINCE MY BROTHERS DEATH, WOW. SOMETIMES IT STILL FEELS LIKE TESTERDAY AND OTHER TIMES IT FEELS LIKE 23 MONTHS. I DO BELIEVE I MISS MY BROTHER MORE NOW THEN WHEN IT FIRST HAPPENED. I CANT PRETEND ANYMORE THAT DAVID IS OUT OF TOWN WORKING, I CANT PRETEND ANYMORE THAT HE IS GONE FOR TWO WEEKS HUNTING, I CANT PRETEND ANYMORE ANYTHING. MY BROTHER IS DEAD, DEAD AND GONE. NEVER COMING FOME TO ME OR OUR FAMILY. HE HAS LEFT US WITH SUCH A MESS. SO MANY QUESTIONS, ALL THE WHAT IF'S, ALL THE WHY'S, ALL THE WOULD OF COULD SHOULD OF'S WILL NEVER CHANGE THE FACT THAT MY BROTHER CHOOSE TO GET A RIDE WITH A DRUNK DRIVER... MY LIFE HAS BEEEN UPSIDE DOWN, INSIDE OUT, AND TOTALLY OUT OF CONTROL WITH ALL KINDS OF WHAT IF THOUGHTS. WHY DID GOD TAKE MY BROTHER ON MY B'DAY? DID I DO SOMETHING WRONG? IF ONLY I WOULD OF WENT TO THE COAST 4 MY B'DAY ALL THREE OF MY BROTHERS WERE GONNA GO, BUT I SAID NO, SO DID DAVID, WHERE DID IT GET HIM, DEAD. I CANT HELP BUT FEEL A LITTLE RESPONSIABLE. I THINK I KNOW IT'S NOT MY FAULT BUT I DO PLAY THE WHAT IF GAME WITH MYSELF WHEN I'M DOWN AND OUT, AS I AM NOW. I LOVE AND MISS YOU DAVID A. WEST WITH MY WHOLE HEART AND SOUL, YOUR BIG SISTER, LORRI STANDLEY.
IN LOVING MEMORY OF DAVID A. WEST PLEASE DONT DRINK AND RIDE OR DRIVE.........

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