It is so hard to believe how fast a drunk driver can steal your life right out of your life.. I myself had a brother stolen out of my life due to a 4 time repet offender. It happened on my 35th B'day. My brother was only 29, he had two kids. Erika 6-1/2 at the time and Little zachary who was only 5 at the time... It is so hard to move on and upward after you have had your whole life ripped out from under neath you. There are no words of consolation to make anyone in our postion feel better. It's just not possible. I am a totally different person today then I was on Jan 14th 2006... That was the day my life ended the way I used to know it. I have three kids of my own and I feel terrible for my actions and how I reacted after my brother was KILLED. my oldest is 16 middle is 13 and my baby girl is 12. They also took it very hard, but you see I was so filled with grief, dread, hopelessness,anger, lonelyness, and self pitty that I forgot to take care of my children.... I have so much pain and agony for them now, now that I can see what I unknowingly did to them. We are all still in counseling, I go once a week and the kids go twice a month. Not to mention my Gramma just died of natural causes but still it put me back into my dark deepest depression. I guess I have post tramatic stress disorder. It took us 18 months to getthe driver into court. He got one of the longest sentences in the state of Oregon, 15 yrs 8 months. I dont feel a bit of sadness for him either he was offered a plea of 3 to 4 yrs if he just plead no contest, he was a fool and thought he could beat the system once again, I bet he is not laughing anymore..... hope life gets better for you soon. By the way when did this happen and how old where you???? Write back if you'd like you can find me on the comment page I'm sure. If not my email is lstandley@rosenet.net life does get different I promiss you that, I cant say better but different is what I have found.. Lorri
