Joseph and Thomas "TJ" Occhiogrosso

On Sunday, August 23, 2009 two remarkable young men were killed by a drunk driver. Joseph Occhiogrosso, 28 and his brother Thomas "TJ" Occhiogrosso, 27 were crossing the street when they were hit by someone driving under the influence. Joseph was thrown by the impact. He was rushed to a nearby hospital where they desperately tried to save him, but he was pronounced dead a short time later. TJ was impaled thru the windshield and pronounced at the scene. A photo from a newspaper article showed the vehicle with a huge hole in the windshield and blood everywhere. The driver received minor injuries. He refused a blood test, but later blood was taken with a court order. His BAC was .21, almost 3 times the legal limit.
Joseph Occhiogrosso was known as a devoted family man in the community. He took care of his 90 year old grandmother, Mary, who is suffering from Parkinson's disease. He worked as a plumber and he was loved by everyone that knew him. He was one of the friendliest and most outgoing people I have ever met.
TJ Occhiogrosso was a veteran of the US Navy and served in Iraq. After he was honorably discharged, he continued to serve the community as a volunteer firefighter. Just like Joe, he always kept us laughing. His beautiful daughter, Cecilia "C.C." is almost 3 years old. I don't know if she will ever know how proud TJ was to be her daddy.
Both men gave so much of themselves in their short lives. Their love, devotion, and generosity will never be forgotten. Knowing that they are in the arms of the Lord is of some comfort. But I think I speak for all that knew them when I say we are selfish and we want them back here with us. They can never and will never be replaced.

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Jul 20, 2014
Joey & TJ
by: Anonymous

Love you and remember you every day. It kills me that you are gone. Such funny, handsome, wonderful boys. You never let us down. Absolutely nothing is the same without you. Not a moment passes that wouldn't be made so much better if you both were here. I wish and hope you hear this message. You are my love and my strength and my protectors. Forever and ever we will be together for our destiny is with each other.

Jul 07, 2013
by: Anonymous

Almost four years feels like four days sometimes. The tears come easily and often. Now I remember so that I won't forget. Not that I ever could but I want to keep the little things fresh in my mind. The sound of your laughter, your movements, the way you sat, the way you ate, the way you played with my children. Even in your death you have loved me and been there for me. You are the unseen protective arms around my family and I pray that I can thank you and hug you and look in your gorgeous eyes and say I love you soon.

Dec 23, 2012
Always C
by: Anonymous

It's been 3 years since you died. I think about you every day. I'll never stop missing you. I love you so much. My best friend, my heart, my love... You were everything. Fun, forgiving, and wise. You made sense to me. .what a loss. I'll never know the kind Iof love I felt for you ever again. Your death killed part of me. I missyou so much.
Anyway, the stars are yours. I promise I'll neverforget. Ill never stop loving you, I'll love you nforever

Nov 11, 2010
by: Anonymous


Oct 27, 2010
angle in the sky
by: Anonymous

My heart is missing You..Cecilia is missing you she sees you in the sky she tells us you are with her

Sep 16, 2010
love you always
by: Anonymous

You are gone but always on my mind. Every day I think of you and miss you and try to figure out how I will ever put the pieces of my life back together. I was so blessed to have the two of you in my life since you were babies. You took great care of me, you loved me, you helped me, you applauded me and you basically were the wind in my sails. Joey I can't wait to see you again, I feel like I lost myself when you died. TJ, I never told you that I admire you and your convictions. Your daughter is a gorgeous little version of you. I love her so much. I pray to see you both in my dreams.

Mar 15, 2010
one day at a time
by: Anonymous

one day at a time, one tear at a time, we miss you guys - people live on forever in there own way - JOEY AND TJ - will live on

Feb 16, 2010
I knew TJ
by: Joe Borders

We went to military police school together in San Antonio in 2004. I spent a lot of time with him there and got to know him well. He was such a character, always made me laugh. We helped each other out quite a bit. I was his secondary alarm clock, I would always make sure he was up before I went to the school house in the morning. I came across this article because I was going to try and re-establish contact with him. My sympathy goes out to his family.

Dec 03, 2009
by: Anonymous

T and joey ill see u when I get there. miss u guys

Oct 11, 2009
by: Anonymous
This is a beautiful blog made for TJ's daughter.

Sep 22, 2009
this wasnt meant for you
by: Anonymous

Joey, and T,
The tounge cannot speak the words deserved for you. I vow to you TJ I will do whatever I can to make sure your girl has what she needs, and to you Joe, I will continue to look up to you as an older brother and only hope to be half the man you were. I miss you and love you both.

Aug 30, 2009
so sorry
by: Betsy

Dear Family of Joseph and Thomas we want to reach out to you as we have also been robed of our only son he was only 21 and was murdered , by a repeat DD on Nov 30 08 just passed on Conkilin street in Farmingdale .he was visiting us on Thanksgiving from Miami college and while driving home from Applebees on 110 in Farmingdale,with three other friends . he was killed instently by a drunk driver hit him Head on we still greive and feel the pain as well as yours our story is on here as well infact i wrote it a day or two after the crash please kknow we are thinking of you all and again we my family are praying for you please understnd we only want you to know our thoughts are with you all i live in Levittown so i am very close to East Meadow where this scum has murdered your brothers and husband god bless only those who have lost know what the pain is and what we muxt live with for ever !

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