My daughter, Maria Lopez, San Diego, CA - Thanksgiving of 1998

by Anthony
(Fort Benning, Georgia)

Almost 13 years have gone by since my daughter was killed by a drunk driver. The drunk was driving on the wrong side of Interstate 15 and hit the car my daughter was in. The drunk, hardly injured, even tried to flee on foot after the accident. In the end, he was convicted of vehicle manslaughter instead of 2nd degree murder. This man will be eligible for parole next year 2012. My little girl's name was Maria and died before her 5th birthday.

I believe in forgiveness but I cannot for this man. All I have is hate and vengeance in my heart, and I wish I was a better man to get past this.

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Sep 11, 2013
update NEW
by: Anthony

I didn't end up going to the parole hearing last year, only my former mother in law attended. The drunk driver "Sam" is now free, hopefully a changed man. I still don't know how I feel about it. The driver was young, made a terrible mistake, and ruined lives on both sides.

However I was hoping for some feeling of closure or peace. But every time, every year its Thanksgiving or my Maria's birthday the feeling of loss is still it was yesterday.

But thanks for listening, take care everyone.


Oct 19, 2011
by: Walter R - California

I recently went to see a movie that has impacted me so much that I should share it with you, please go and watch it, it's called "Courageous" It is very inspirational and moving. I laughed, I cried, I think it will give some answers and strength after the loss of your little Maria. I felt touched and had some tears after reading your story, keep in mind that one day you'll be reunited with her, meanwhile a lot of people are with you during the healing process, you are not alone, things happen for a reason, sometimes life presents events that we wish it was just a short nightmare, but we have to keep going. My prayers are with you. God bless you.
Walter R. California USA

Sep 15, 2011
by: Anonymous

It's been 16 years since I lost my husband in a drunk driving accident, and even now (especially anniversaries) I get so angry and depressed over the irresponsible decisions the drunk driver made.
All I can say is that some days are good, and some days are bad. I will never forget my husband, and I try everyday to honor him by moving on with my life.

Sep 15, 2011
by: OfficerAmanda

The most important thing in my humble opinion, is that you forgive YOURSELF. You are human, you are grieving, and you have the right to feel anything you want. Someone killed your child.

Do not concern yourself with guilt or fear that you may never forgive this person. God forgives YOU for being HUMAN (as he made you) and that is ALL THAT MATTERS.

I am so sorry for your loss. Your sweet Maria will be remembered.

Sep 14, 2011
your right
by: Anonymous

i am completely on your side. bless you and your family

Sep 01, 2011
DWI Memorial of Perpetual Tears
by: Maribeth

I am a volunteer with the DWI Memorial of Perpetual Tears. We would like to tell your daughters story in our Tribute books and post her photo in our tribute gallery on our website. Please contact me at if you are interested, and I can tell you more about our organization. This is of course at no charge. The Memorial is for victims and their stores.

Aug 31, 2011
where will you find peace?
by: Anonymous

It is approaching the 21st memorial of my brothers death. It took several years of anger, denial, therapy, consumption of MY life. To come to terms with the tragedy that affected me. My hope and prayer for you is: That you can understand your grief sooner rather than later. That forgiveness will free your heart of anger and pain! Let God be the final judge. Find peace, joy and comfort in knowing that God will someday bring you and Maria together again. God Speed!

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