DEAR DEBRA AND FAMILY, I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LOST OF YOUR SON. THANKS FOR CONTACTING ME DEBRA. I FEEL YOUR PAIN EVERY SECOND OF EVERYDAY BECAUSE I LOST TWO SONS IN LESS THAN 2 YEARS APART BOTH DUE TO ALCOHOL RELATED DEATHS.MY DAUGHTER HAS LOST BOTH BROTHERS, HER BIG BROTHER AND HER TWIN. ALAN THE 16 YEAR OLD WAS ASHLEYS TWIN. OUR FAMILY HAS ALL BEEN IN SUCH A HORRIBLE SHAPE SINCE THIS HAPPENED. IT HAS BEEN 5 YEARS THIS PAST OCTOBER FOR JEREMY. ITS BEEN THREE YEARS LAST JUNE 25TH FOR ALAN. IT DOES FEEL JUST LIKE YESTERDAY THEY WERE HERE,BUT WE ALL KNOW THATS NOT TRUE. EVERYDAY IS A STRUGGLE.SOME DAYS WORSE THAN OTHERS.I HOPE YOUR FAMILY STAYS STRONG AND PULLS TOGETHER FOR THIS. FAMILY IS EVERYTHING. I SUFFER FROM DEPRESSION.MY LIFE AS I KNEW IT WILL NEVER BE THE SAME AGAIN. BUT I WILL SAY THIS, MY TWO SONS WANT ME TO GET BETTER. MY TWO SONS WANT THERE MOMA TO BE HAPPY. AND DEBRA YOUR SON WANTS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY TO BE HAPPY. GOD BLESS YOU AND IF YOU EVER NEED A FREIND TO TALK TO, IM HERE .OK. THANKS, PAULA OVERSTREET
Jun 16, 2009
Daniel by: Debra DeFrain
Hello Daniel: I am so glad that you posted on this site. I do not have your number and have wanted to talk to you. Loren spoke so highly of you. I have a wrist band for you in honor of Loren as well as a prayer card. Please contact me by phone if you still have our number or send me an email @ jdefrain@comast.net. I would love to hear from you. While Loren is no longer physically with us, he lives on in our memories and in our hearts.
Debra DeFrain
Jun 16, 2009
I lost my best friend. by: Daniel Costilla
I am writing this comment in memory of my best friend. Loren was more like a brother to me when he passed away and it was the hardest thing I think I ever had to deal with and am still dealing with today. Im in tears just typing this cause i miss him so much. I cant imagine the pain you are going through Mr. and Mrs. Defrain and I am very sorry for your loss from me and my family as they also new Loren and what kind of great person he was and still is. Although his death was such a shock and so painful Loren gave me some of the greatest memories any friend or family member has ever left me. He will always be my closest friend and again give my condolinces to all his family and friends and hope to one day gain the courage to visit Mr. and Mrs. Defrain and one day get closure for this horrible tragedy. Loren, I will never forget you and cant wait to see you in the future. I love you man.
May 29, 2009
from Kelli's mom by: Pam Taylor
Oh Deb, i am CRUSHED for the loss of your son!
I know how hard it is to be upset for the decisions our kids made that contributed to their death--- all the while missing them SO very much!
I totally agree with you about the people that hosted the 'party' and watched your son drive away. After people drink a certain amount- they are no longer capable of making good choices.
sending much love & big hugs your way- xoxo Pam, Kelli's mom
PS: thank you so much for the comment :)
www.kellilainelewis.com
Apr 11, 2009
We share tragedies by: Anonymous
I am so sorry. I could be writing this same story with only a few variables. My son, who was only 24 years old, was at a party drinking when his girlfriend's father handed him the keys to his car and asked him to go get some more beer. I can almost picture my son, not wanting to go, but not wanting to lose whatever macho image that was going on at that moment, so he took the keys, and him and his girlfriend went to the store. He didn't know this area, it was all country roads so when he turned down this country road he didn't realize there was this old wooden bridge, the car's passenger side wheel well got stuck on the wooden bridge abutment and flipped the car over, 15 feet below to the creek. They tell me my son's neck was broken and he died instantly. Thank the Lord for that. The girl didn't have a scratch on her (she was drunk too). I personally think that her father should go to jail.
Mar 06, 2009
I am so sorry for your loss by: Jo
Dear Family, I am not a person who has ever writen anything on line. I want to say how sorry I am for the loss of your son. How can you go on? I know that is a question never answered. God Bless you. I am so sorry for your. Joanne
